The Context A sister posted to our sub about struggling with desires and the private sins which often come with that when a person has a weakness in their imaan. She also stated that marriage was out of the question for her for now, without substantiating a "why." My response below is a general advice for anyone who suffers from a similar condition. The Advice The permanent solution for...
The Context A sister posted to the sub regarding her mother who was deeply Islamophobic and she was afraid her mother would call child services on her if she raised her child as a proper Muslim. Bear in mind, my advice below pertains to those living in the US at the time of the post. There are countries in the world (including France, Germany, China, etc.) where just raising your family upon...
AstroTurf: simulated or artificially created public support for something, generated by an orchestrated marketing or public relations campaign. Recently an emotionally charged post was made on another Muslim sub, which dealt with a husband sabotaging his wife’s birth control in order to get her pregnant while knowing she wanted to wait to have children. It garnered a lot of buzz (surprise...
Recurring celebrations (national holidays, birthdays, anniversaries) are not celebrated in Islam. The Muslims have two (2) celebrations: Eid al-Fitr (which immediately follows Ramadan) and Eid al-Adha (which is when the Hajj is, 2 Islamic months after the first Eid). You can also treat Friday like a celebration as it is a blessed day. Let me share my evidences for this: Anas ibn Malik reported:...
The Context A sister posted to our sub bemoaning the Hoor al-‘Ayn that men receive in Jannah. This unmarried, unengaged, single sister talked about how she spent hours crying some days, thinking how her husband will have hooris if he enters Jannah. The Response Sister, it seems to me you have a fundamental flaw in your understanding of a few key concepts related to both life and the...
The Context A sister posted to the our sub about some abuse she suffered in the past, which has lasting trauma and mental health concerns for her in the present. Was she obligated to tell any suitors about this? Should she keep it to herself? Another component of her post was about revealing her abuser, who seemed to have turned a new leaf and changed their ways completely—did this fall...