The Context A sister posted to our sub about struggling with desires and the private sins which often come with that when a person has a weakness in their imaan. She also stated that marriage was out of the question for her for now, without substantiating a "why." My response below is a general advice for anyone who suffers from a similar condition. The Advice The permanent solution for...
The Context A sister posted to the sub regarding her mother who was deeply Islamophobic and she was afraid her mother would call child services on her if she raised her child as a proper Muslim. Bear in mind, my advice below pertains to those living in the US at the time of the post. There are countries in the world (including France, Germany, China, etc.) where just raising your family upon...
The Context A sister posted to the our sub about some abuse she suffered in the past, which has lasting trauma and mental health concerns for her in the present. Was she obligated to tell any suitors about this? Should she keep it to herself? Another component of her post was about revealing her abuser, who seemed to have turned a new leaf and changed their ways completely—did this fall...
The Context A sister posted to our sub about feeling low and becoming mired in periods of low imaan. She mentioned that she didn’t used to feel this way before. The Advice Burn out is real, yes. There is no need to overwhelm ourselves with too much or force ourselves to do more than we’re able. At the same time, we should not become lazy or negligent—especially with regards to the...
It’s a constant battle. One of the things I love to do is watch some videos which show the humility of our esteemed scholars. Really helps put a person in their place. Shaykh ar-Raslaan Shaykh bin Baaz Reprimands Praise The other thing to do is avoid listening to praise of yourself. If you hear someone praise you, forbid or discourage it, because this person is harming you. How? It is...
The Context As the title suggests, a sister posted to our sub about the guilt and shame she felt from her previous life before being guided. She was despairing, leaving off Salah, and becoming increasingly suicidal. A perfect target for Shaiytaan. May Allah make things easy for her and grant her good. Ameen. The Advice ﷽ Did you know, sister? The Muslim is not allowed to despair in the mercy of...
The Context A sister had posted to our sub about wanting to come back to the Deen, but feeling a little overwhelmed and also guilty for her past. Most of the rest can be gleaned from my response, in sha’ Allah. I broke it down into steps to denote priority, so that she (and any others) can know how to distribute their energies, by the permission of Allah. The Advice ﷽ #1 Take Your Shahada...
The Context A sister posted in our sub about struggling to pray on time. She mentioned having prayer notifications and alarms on her phone, and that not helping much at all. The Advice ﷽ I’ve struggled through the same problem as you (and probably worse), so this is my sincere advice to you: learn your religion and learn who Allah is. No amount of support groups or alarms will do for you...
The Context A sister had posted to our sub asking if she should delay marriage in order to pursue medical school. She was facing pressure from her family to do so and was made to feel less-than for wishing to prioritize marriage. This post contains my response. The Response ﷽ There’s a lot you’ve touched on, I hope you don’t mind if I go through it point by point. You first...