Everything is Haram! Religion is So Hard!
The Context
Recently, I was on Reddit (this was my first mistake), on one of the cancerous default subs (mistake #2), and I came across a post, the like of which we see fairly often. It was essentially crying about why the religion is so hard, how everything is haram.
This poster decided to take a particularly irreverent tone, and, as usual, their entire argument began and was built on false premises. They would make a false or deeply misguided statement, and add: "straight to Jahannam." Very low IQ. Although I took the time to write out a detailed response (third mistake, for those keeping track at home), and was banned from the sub for my efforts. Sad.
The Banning
For those curious, the reason provided was that I had linked to my personal site (ok, fair enough, but you could clearly tell the post wasn’t about my website, it wasn’t a karma farm) and also that I linked to a forbidden sub! So I guess SiS is forbidden on r/islam? Look, ma, we made it! Jokes.
The Response
You are deeply misunderstood on the topic of the religion, so I encourage you earnestly to learn about it from the fundamentals first. Let’s go through what you wrote together.
Asl of Deen vs. Dunya
I have realized how much in our religion everything is haram until proven halal
This is a major misconception you have and this comes up again and again in your rant.
The asl (default) of the religion is that everything pertaining to it is impermissible unless and until we have an evidence proving it is halal. This is because the religion was completed during the lifetime of the Prophet (ﷺ) and there is no divine guidance to come afterwards. He did not withhold anything of benefit and he did not instruct us with anything except what would benefit.
A’ishah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "Whoever innovates something in this matter of ours (i.e. Islam) that is not part of it, will have it rejected."
On the flip side, the asl (default) of the dunya is that everything is permissible unless we have a proof or evidence prohibiting it.
Later you stated
Why is everything haram this, haram that.
This statement is categorically false, on its face. The number of restrictions Islam imposes are absolutely eclipsed by the number of permissible things. Let’s just take food, for example. How many things are you able to eat? What are you restricted from? On top of this, you’re only forbidden that which is harmful. And still you complain?
"So which of the favors of your Lord would you deny?"
—Qur’an (ar-Rahman) 55:13
Stay in Your Lane
when it should be otherwise
Fear Allah, brother, you are in no position to dictate what should or should not be a part of the religion. This is the Deen of Allah, not the deen of u/Bosanska_Nacija.
Music
Music is so haram
It is, and you can read up on why that is here, straight from the scholars
Keeping Intentions for Allah
Doing something but not having 100% of intention to please Allah? Straight to Jahannam. You fix your posture to look nice during Salah? Small Shirk, straight to Jahannam. I mean by that definition beautifying your voice during recitation for the sake of it being beautiful for the jammat is also (small) shirk.
Why do you fix your posture to look nice during Salah? You want the praise of others? You want others to think, "Wow, s/he prays so well!"? Or do you do it because you want to pray your Salah in the most perfect manner for Allah. Do you straighten your posture when you’re praying alone or only when others are watching? Why make your recitation beautiful for the Jammat, why not for Allah who commanded you with that?
The line of thinking you’re putting out there is cringe and is literally seeking the pleasure of the people. So what will you gain from the pleasure of the people? None of them will avail you in your grave or on Judgement Day. The first 3 to enter the Hellfire will be Muslims who sought the pleasure of the people in their acts of worship instead of the pleasure of Allah. When they claim to have done their deeds for Allah, it is said to them:
You have lied—you did but study [religious] knowledge that it might be said [of you]: He is learned. And you recited the Quran that it might be said [of you]: He is a reciter. And so it was said. Then he will be ordered to be dragged along on his face until he is cast into Hell-fire.
Please consider where Shaiytaan is leading you with these strange and embarrassing thoughts. Why would you want to do things for the sake of the people instead of Allah?
Also, did you really say this:
but apparently […] helping a person because I want to be regarded as nice
then immediately follow up with:
People who do nice stuff with ONLY the intention of pleasing Allah seem so fake and emotionally distant, like as if someone is using you to get rewarded.
My guy, you JUST admitted you wanted to be seen as nice. You wanted something out of that action that you performed. If no one thought it was praiseworthy, you wouldn’t have helped that individual. Whereas the one who does something for the sake of Allah wants nothing from the people, and did the action regardless of what the people saw or perceived. Subhanallah, the cognitive dissonance is crazy.
Lifestyle
doing anything to have a more peaceful and beautiful life is haram if not with the intention of Allah, am I not allowed to have emotions?
What beautifies a life but obedience to Allah’s command? What is there that beautifies the kuffar’s existence which isn’t present in Islam? How are you defining "a beautiful life"?
Remember the words of the Prophet (ﷺ):
Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: The world is a prison-house for a believer and Paradise for a non-believer.
Celebrations of the Kuffar
Even Birthdays are haram, I guess independence days for countries are also haram, so is celebrating a victory since it’s Bid’ah
The first 2, yes, because they are recurring holidays which are not from Islam. The last 1, no, because you don’t understand what constitutes a forbidden, recurring celebration. You are of course able to celebrate victories (of halal things) or milestones like a graduation, etc. These are one-off celebrations.
Here’s some further insights on this topic. I highly encourage clicking through to the video resource at the bottom.
Languages
speaking your language (other than arabic) might as well be Bid’ah as well since the 1st muslims didn’t speak your language.
Honestly, I think even you realize how stupid this is, right? I think I don’t need to break this one down further. The principles and concepts were already discussed above, anyway, but if you are genuinely confused on this point, let me know.
Conclusion
I’m just spouting random stuff
It shows. It’s better for you to learn your religion than to hop on reddit and spout nonsense. Don’t complain about the stuff you don’t understand while you didn’t put in the effort to actually learn.